🏡 gables & mudsills

My emotional support.

Hi friends,

Oh shit, I've missed two Fridays!

Since I last emailed you, my partner of four years and I decided to split.

Four days later I made my first offer on a house.

24 hours later the offer was accepted.

I have so, so much to say about all of this. I've been writing this intro for hours, and anything I write feels either super vague or like a massive over-share.

I'll keep it short for now: I'm okay, but I'm on a roller coaster. I feel excited by the possibility of what's ahead, and I'm grieving what I'm about to lose. I'm confident in my decisions one moment and convinced I'm ruining my life the next.

It's a lot to process and I'm in the middle of it.

As always, there's still profound beauty, connection, and delight amid discomfort and upheavals.

Here are three things I loved this week:
 

1. The Year in Vibes. This New Yorker article perfectly articulates the totem vibes of 2021—and introduced me to the @SpaceLiminalBot Twitter account, which is perfection.


2. In case it helps. "it is ok to be overwhelmed during an overwhelming time." This helped a lot. Thank goddess for adrienne maree brown (and RIP bell hooks).


3. Easily the most productive 12 minutes of my week. Why oh why don't they teach basic home construction in school?! My inspection was yesterday, so earlier this week I went down a first time home-buyer YouTube black hole so I could feel more secure in conversations about a 100 year-old house, and it worked. I love knowing what a gable is. I love knowing what a mudsill is. I could watch videos about tile work and grouting all day.

Looking forward to the 5" of snow in the forecast. I need more of this.

Thanks for reading!

Stay tender, y'all.

(Christine Tyler Hill is the human behind Tender Warrior Co.)